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Start your vault free →Writing an obituary is one of the most meaningful things you can do for someone you love. It is not a formality — it is a final portrait, a chance to tell the world who this person was and why they mattered. This guide will help you write something honest, warm, and worthy of their memory.
There is no single correct format, but most obituaries include a combination of the following. Include what feels right — you do not need every item on this list.
Full name and any nicknames
Start with their full legal name, and mention any names they were known by — nicknames, maiden names, or names they chose for themselves.
Date and place of birth
Where and when their story began. If they were proud of where they came from, say so.
Date and place of death
You can be as specific or general as you like. "Passed on March 3, 2026 in Sacramento" or simply "died peacefully at home" — both are fine.
Surviving family members
List immediate family — spouse, children, grandchildren, siblings. Include "preceded in death by" for those who passed before them, if appropriate.
Education and career highlights
Where they went to school, what they did for work, and what they were proud of professionally. A career is part of a life story.
Hobbies, passions, and personality traits
This is where the obituary comes alive. Were they a gardener? A storyteller? Did they never miss a baseball game? These details are what people remember.
Military service
If they served, note their branch, rank, and any service details they would have wanted shared.
Community involvement and achievements
Volunteer work, memberships, awards, faith community involvement — anything that shows how they showed up for others.
Service or memorial details
Date, time, location, and any special instructions (dress code, live stream link, private ceremony notes).
Where to send donations (in lieu of flowers)
Many families request donations to a charity, scholarship fund, or cause their loved one cared about. Include the name and website if possible.
The best obituaries feel like the person wrote them — or at least like someone who truly knew them did. Here are a few tips to help you get there.
Start with who they were, not when they died
Lead with their name and something that captures their spirit. "Margaret Sullivan lit up every room she walked into" is more memorable than "Margaret Sullivan, 78, died on March 3."
Include specific stories and details
A single vivid detail — "he made the best French toast on Saturday mornings" — says more than a paragraph of generalities. Specific is always more powerful than generic.
Write in their voice and spirit
If they were funny, let the obituary be a little funny. If they were quiet and dignified, let it be that. The tone should feel like them.
Keep it honest — imperfect is more human
You do not need to make anyone sound like a saint. The most meaningful obituaries acknowledge that a person was real, complex, and loved despite (and sometimes because of) their imperfections.
Read it aloud before publishing
Reading aloud catches awkward phrasing, run-on sentences, and tone issues that your eyes skip over. If it sounds right when spoken, it will read right on the page.
Have a family member review
Another set of eyes catches factual errors and can add details you might have missed. It also gives other family members a sense of participation in honoring the person.
Not sure where to start? Here are three common approaches. Use these as starting points — the best obituary is the one that feels true to your loved one.
“[Full Name], [age], of [City, State], passed away on [date] at [location]. Born on [date] in [city] to [parents' names], [he/she] graduated from [school] and spent [number] years as a [profession]. [He/She] is survived by [family members]. A memorial service will be held on [date] at [location]. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to [organization].”
“If you ever met [Name], you probably remember [his/her] laugh. [He/She] had a way of making everyone around [him/her] feel like the most important person in the room. Born in [city] on [date], [Name] spent [his/her] life [brief life summary]. [He/She] leaves behind [family], a garden full of tomatoes [he/she] swore were the best in the county, and a community that will miss [him/her] deeply.”
“[Full Name], [age], of [City], died [date]. [He/She] was a beloved [relationship roles] and will be deeply missed by all who knew [him/her]. A private service will be held by the family. Donations in [his/her] memory may be made to [organization].”
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This tool is not a substitute for a professional obituary writer. Always review and personalize the output before publishing.
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